We all feel like we’re up against a brick wall at work and in our careers from time to time. Things start mounting up, our choices feel limited, we bargain with ourselves ‘if I can just get through this, then…’ – and sometimes we get through it only to face it again – and again.
We’ve learned lots of strategies for coping with life’s challenges which work really well for us in many or most situations. But what happens when we really feel stuck, when we feel like we just can’t see a way forwards, when our usual coping strategies are no longer working for us or are positively unhelpful, or when we just feel too tired to go forward?
Lots of people come for Career Development Coaching when they hit that brick wall or sense it looming closer and closer. The work environment may be different – due to a new manager or leader, an organisational change, a change in employer or role, a change in workload – or at the other extreme, there might be a lack of change leading to work feeling monotonous and dull. There may be grief at the loss of something good in the workplace or in the course of a career, a sense of having made the ‘wrong’ career choices, or a vague feeling of concern that something’s missing in the client’s working life which is leading to a lack of fulfilment and a loss of energy.
How Can Coaching Help?
Career Development Coaching makes a difference to transform working lives. I support my clients using leading edge, evidence based techniques through a semi structured process tailored to each client’s individual needs and circumstances. Clients:
- discover their unique intrinsic motivations and skills
- make conscious choices in line with what matters to them personally
- develop new skills
- develop the ability to ‘drive their own bus’ in a way which leads to an upward curve of vitality and wellbeing.
Living a life and a career strongly connected to a sense of meaning and purpose is not easy or a soft option though, it requires agency, grit and determination, all of which are skills which can be learned and grown, building on resources which clients already have. Coaching others to transform their working lives requires me to live my own life in this way, strongly connected to my own values of partnership working, collaboration, making a difference, and being supportive and empowering.
When you’re up against that brick wall at work or in your career – for the first time or the hundredth time – no matter what your mind tries to tell you, there are always options, choices, and ways forwards. Contact me for a free discovery session to find out how I can support you with Career Development Coaching to enable you to see that brick wall for what it really is – an invitation to learn how to flourish at work again.
Dr Fiona Day is the world’s only Leadership Coach with advanced coaching psychology, medical and public health qualifications (MBChB, FFPH, BPS Chartered Psychologist in Coaching Psychology, EMCC Master Practitioner Coach & Mentor) and is in a unique position to help you and your teams to flourish. Fiona specialises in coaching medical and public health leaders, is a coach Supervisor, and an EQA Foundation Award Holder. Get 3 hours of FREE CPD with Fiona’s Health Career Success Programme here. Book a free confidential 30 minute Consultation with Fiona here.
2 comments on “Feeling Like You’re Up Against a Brick Wall?”
Atif Mahmood
Hi Fiona
A outstanding blog. Very interesting.
“it requires agency, grit and determination, all of which are skills which can be learned and grown”
Di you mean agony …. Instead of agency?
English is my 3rd language..but I didn’t get the above.
Thanks
ATIF
fionadayadmin
hi Atif, thanks for your comments. Re agency- this isn’t a typo but it’s a great question to get clear on what agency means. Accomplishment would be the sense of having achieved a goal, whereas agency is the sense of being able to make something happen. They often occur together. Agency is the opposite of feeling helpless. Rick Hanson, a leading cognitive psychologist whom I have had the honour of meeting has a section in his book ‘Hardwiring Happiness’ on how to develop a greater sense of agency- the book as a whole is excellent too! Best wishes and thanks again for your comment. Fiona